A 73-year-old sex worker has shared one of the main reasons she believes married men seek pleasure outside the home, along with the simple change she thinks could help prevent men from straying.
Caroline Vee, who spent four decades living a celibate life before experiencing a late-life “sexual awakening” at 57 that reshaped her future, eventually went on to become an escort at the age of 73.
“I became an escort in 2017,” Vee—whose real name is Siobhan Burt—said during an appearance on the Tea At Four podcast with hosts Billy and Lauren.
“When I became a born-again Christian and we couldn’t have sex, it was like, ‘Well, I didn’t enjoy it in my younger years anyway, so it’s not going to be a loss,’” the “Busty Granny” explained.
“So that’s how I managed to go through the 40 years. Partly obviously because it wasn’t allowed in the church, but also because I didn’t have any interest.”
Recently, the grandmother-turned-content creator took calls on the podcast’s OnlyGrans Hotline, where she offered frank advice on intimacy, sexual insecurities, and relationship issues that many couples face privately.
During one call, a 25-year-old named Lucy shared that her boyfriend was considering ending their relationship after discovering her “wild” sexual past.
“My boyfriend is considering breaking up with me after learning about my past sexual kinks,” she said. “Because I had a few wild years exploring my BDSM kink, he thinks we’re no longer compatible. What should I do?”
Vee responded with humor before offering more serious guidance.
“Just going to put you on hold and I’ll come back shortly—after I’ve killed him,” she joked.
However, she quickly shifted the conversation toward communication and honesty in relationships, arguing that openness about sexual preferences should not automatically end a relationship.
“The fact that she’s admitted it is good, because she’s being honest,” she said. “If he doesn’t like it, then ditch!”
At the same time, she suggested the caller should try to understand why her boyfriend feels uncomfortable before making any final decision.
“Have a conversation by all means, but try to find out why he doesn’t like it,” she said. “Has he got a problem with it, or were you hoping he would participate? Or is it something you’ve experimented with and now want to move on from? There are many reasons someone might feel insecure about it.”
She added that couples should not immediately shut down discussions about sexual exploration, especially if both partners are open to trying new things.
“If he agrees to try some light BDSM, find out what he likes and maybe try it together,” she said. “He’s the one who’s insecure.”
“And communicate and ask if they enjoyed it. If they say no, then maybe you’re not compatible and shouldn’t be together.”
As the conversation continued, Vee explained one of the main reasons she believes married men often turn to her services.
According to her, many clients are not necessarily trying to leave their marriages, but feel unable to openly discuss fantasies, curiosity, or intimacy needs with their partners.
“Very common,” she said. “It’s the men who want to explore, but the women don’t want to. The women are stuck with missionary—they don’t want to try other positions.”
She also shared a personal story that surprised her.
“I’ll never forget when I mentioned a 69 to my sister, and she had never heard of it,” she said. “And I’m thinking, ‘But you’ve been married for 40 years—have you only done missionary? Isn’t it boring to do the same thing night after night?’”
Despite the provocative nature of the discussion, much of Vee’s advice focused on communication, chemistry, and compatibility.
“You’ve got to find what works for you,” said Vee, who reportedly earns thousands per month as an escort.
“When men ask me, ‘What’s your favorite position?’ I don’t really have one because it depends on the man and his body. Different positions work differently depending on that.”
